My 95 year-old Grandfather passed away this past week. He lived a very healthy life but developed dementia the last couple of years. Eventually, he contracted a really bad infection that he suffered with for almost 3 weeks until it took his life. The last couple of weeks my Mother and her sisters tried to make him comfortable, watching a strong man deteriorate. He rarely opened his eyes and couldn't communicate verbally. The night before he passed away he opened his eyes and my Mom could tell he wanted something.
I can't believe almost 6 years ago I almost quit doing therapy. Those of you that are or have been my clients can pick yourselves up off the floor now! I say that because you all know how passionate I am about what I do and I LOVE being a therapist. But let me explain...
A few years ago, my husband was driving with my son, who at the time was 3 years-old. My husband saw a beautiful rainbow in the sky. He showed my son but he couldn't see it. See, my son was too young to understand what a rainbow was. He kept asking him, "Where is it, Daddy? I can't see it!" He wanted to see it so bad but he couldn't, because he didn't know what he was looking for. You sometimes have to really focus in the sky and know what you are looking for to see a rainbow.
The other day I had a major moment- one of those "oh my, where is time going" moments. I was playing with my boys at the park, feeling really tired and a bit over-heated. My 15 month-old wanted to climb up on the equipment that I wasn't sure about. As I helped him, I suddenly flashed back to when my now almost 5 year-old was making the same attempts.
We have an area in our yard that we don't see very frequently. Last year one of our little boys played in it constantly so we kept it up very well. This year he is playing in a different area of our yard. The other day we went back to the old area and realized it was being overtaken by weeds- massive ones!
Usually when I drive, I am in a hurry. But a couple of years ago I read a book about patience (The Power of Patience- a GREAT book by the way!) and I started driving a little differently. I try to take my time along with taking some deep breaths. But the other day I was so frustrated! I was in a hurry and I noticed EVERYONE was driving slow! What was going on? What was wrong with everyone else??
I LOVE God winks- you know..those moments where you just know God is letting you know He is there, taking care of you, or even just thinking about you. Amazing! The almighty creator of the universe is interested in US knowing HE is thinking about us. Really cool, don't ya think?
I have had a Blackberry for 6 years- I LOVED it! During my workweek I was lost without it. I was like my own little secretary that did everything perfectly, exactly the way I wanted "her" to!! My husband, however, LOVES and I really mean LOVES his iphone. He is on his 3rd one! I couldn't get it- what is the big deal? He finally convinced me I needed to have one of his that he no longer needed.
Ok- so I got a lot from this wedding last week!! I have another blog about it- The priest asked us to hold hands with the person we were next to if we were in a relationship with them. He said, "Now I ask you are your best years behind your or in front of you?" What a great question. From where I sit, in my profession, I so often hear about the best years of a couples marriage being when they first met.
I attended a wedding on Saturday for someone who my husband works with. I had to share part of the message that the Priest shared with us. He talked to the congregation about the importance of the environment we provide for the new couple in order to foster growth in their marriage. Wow! I had never thought about that.