It is so exciting to watch a couple come in who have been in marriage therapy a few weeks, working really hard at it, painfully, and then it clicks! They come in from a week where they had a conflict at home, on their own, and they made it thru it! The process worked! They are so excited that they talked about something conflictual, heard each other, felt heard, and actually <em>resolved</em> something. It takes time and patience but when it works it is exciting. I don't know who gets more excited, my clients or me. Keep working!!